Dolly Parton and Porter Wagoner had a relationship that was equal parts mentorship, business partnership, and creative clash. Their time together on The Porter Wagoner Show shaped country music history, but behind the scenes, tensions often ran high.
One of their most heated disagreements wasn’t about money, a duet, or even Dolly’s decision to leave the show. It was over a song she didn’t even record herself—a song that she gave to Emmylou Harris. And Porter was not happy about it.
A Song That Was Never Meant for Dolly
The song in question was “To Daddy.” Written by Dolly in 1975, the ballad tells the story of a woman who quietly endures an unhappy marriage until she finally decides to leave. It’s the kind of song that could have easily been another No. 1 hit for Dolly, but she had different plans.
By the mid-’70s, Dolly wasn’t just focused on performing—she was determined to prove herself as a serious songwriter. When Emmylou Harris visited the studio one day, Dolly played her “To Daddy.” Harris was immediately drawn to it and asked if she could record it. Without hesitation, Dolly said yes.d asked if she could record it. Without hesitation, Dolly said yes.
The problem? Porter Wagoner said no.
A Battle Over a Song
In her 2020 memoir, Songteller: My Life in Lyrics, Dolly recalled the moment Porter confronted her about giving the song away. He was furious, believing it was a missed opportunity for their catalog.
“What the hell do you think you’re doing? You can’t give her that song,” Porter snapped.
But Dolly stood her ground.
“Yes, I can,” she fired back. “Because it’s my song. And because I’m trying to build myself up as a songwriter.”
For Porter, the issue wasn’t just about who recorded the song—it was about control and success. He saw a potential hit slipping away, while Dolly saw a chance to establish herself beyond her own voice.
She wanted credibility and recognition for her writing, not just her voice, and giving “To Daddy” to Harris was a step toward that.
It wasn’t just about friendship, either. Dolly believed in Emmylou Harris, who was on the rise in country music at the time. She knew Harris could do something special with the song and was willing to take the risk.
And she was right.
The Song’s Success and the Aftermath
Emmylou Harris recorded “To Daddy” and released it in 1978. The song became a Top 5 country hit, further solidifying Harris as one of the genre’s most respected voices. For Dolly, it was another step toward being recognized as one of the greatest songwriters in country music—a title that would later earn her a place in the Songwriters Hall of Fame.
As for Porter Wagoner? He and Dolly continued to have creative disagreements until their split became official in 1974. But despite their artistic differences, they never lost respect for each other’s talent.
Dolly proved that day what the world would come to know for decades—her songs weren’t just for her voice. They were timeless stories meant to be shared.
Listen to “To Daddy” below and hear why this song became one of Emmylou Harris’s most memorable hits.